Frequently Asked Questions
1. How do you work?
I meet with couples for a minimum of two hours each weekly meeting and can offer longer sessions if it is desired and possible. Intensives are where couples can come for 3-4 hour sessions a few days in a row. This is necessarily quite “intensive” but can be a great way to build critical mass and greater traction in cases where such work is indicated. While I do like to hear from my clients what issues they are facing and how they think they would like to be helped, I am not usually interested in digging deep in order to get the “full picture”.
The work resides primarily in the way people choose to present and choose to interact, and I while I do ask questions about the past, I prefer to address it via careful attention to its impact in the present. We pretty much start working from the first moments of the first session, and hopefully do so every minute of our time together. Aside from logistics, I never meet or have phone calls with husband or wife separately for a variety of reasons.
2. How long will therapy take?
Every couple is different but my goal for all my clients is for them to fire me as soon as possible. I don’t believe it is in a couple’s interest to develop any kind of dependence on their therapist, and if I feel our work is done, I will move us towards a conclusion of our work. Even in this area, the issues of differentiation are at play and I strive to be consistent in and out of actual therapy time.
3. How do we schedule an appointment?
Please contact me via the online form on this site with your names and cell phones as well as your joint availability during the following time slots: Sunday -Thursday, 10-12 or 15-17, at my office in Yitzhar. I might at times have some flexibility with the timing so feel free to ask. I will get back to you and let you know if your timing allows for us to meet or if slots might be opening up in the future.
I offer below some links to websites about David Schnarch and the Crucible Approach which you may find useful. I will warn that some of my readers here may be challenged or offended by some of the material at these sites.